While some may call it cheating or emotional abandonment, often some women react violently when they realize that their partners are watching porn. Is there room for concern and why do men who have a great sex life, STILL secretly watch Pornhub?
For many, the subject of porn makes them immediately uncomfortable publicly, however, although it is usually thought that porn movies are watched for pleasure, it is true that in recent years people have been looking for an exhaust valve in them more than stress and everyday life in which there are more and more lonely, depressed, anxious but also those who are simply bored.
If your partner is watching porn, there are some things you should know. At first, only a few of people who watch porn admit that it affects their lives.
“Nahhh, jed! Women in porn do some kinda things, but that doesn’t mean yuh could try all dat yuh see. “If men be honest, they does dream of threesomes with strippers or ah lil outside bird, but we men doh really want no relationship with a real stripper,” said one man from Chaguanas, in an impromptu interview with us at IzzSo.
The Trini man named Derek, continues to share that men in relationships, don’t even want their female companion to look like the women in the sexy videos. Rather, he explained that men are not stupid and they know what fake breasts and lips are, as well as that those curls of hair and eyelashes of a porn star are not real.
“Would I proudly walk down the street with the woman I masturbate with? Hell f’@k no! ”Says a friend of Derek’s, who is married and admitted to consuming porn regularly.
Why do men want to watch porn? Here are the thoughts of ‘trinbago’ men identified:
- “I does enjoy sexual excitement and d release that porn does deliver” – 32 (Narine)
- “When yuh gyal salting yuh or not giving yuh d sexual variety, porn has an endless selection to choose from yuh know” – 25 (Joseph)
- “I keeping real with yuh…In real life the sexual practices that men like might not be those that their woman would like to engage in. In the world of porn, our sex partner will do anything we want them to do. And they will enjoy it. And they never get tired. And they are always ready for more.” – 41 (Kevin)
- Even when our sexual partner is available and interested most of the time, there are always those times when we’re hot to we troat but our partner is tired. A quick visit to relieve yuhself, does make things better, and you didn’t cheat on nobody” – 34 (Josiah)
- In a world where we are all so busy with work, home, and family, a pornographic affair may seem like some small comfort for those who are cut-off and lonely. – 30 (Shawn)
- “It’s kinda like instant gratification,” especially in our speeded up world where we want everything served up fast and hot, pornography does sometimes be the perfect solution” – 45 (Raj)
Among the responses, it probably comes as no surprise that the men reported a high frequency of porn viewing. On average, it is said that men watch porn an average time of around three times a week.
Watching porn is as natural to me as enjoying a massage is natural for women. Men are aroused visually, which is why men like porn and why women are aroused by touch. Some researchers say those porn movies should spice up your sex life, not replace it. If after or during watching he does not want sex with his partner – he should reduce the experience.
This is already the moment when porn can cause a relationship problem. So if you don’t have sex or it’s getting rarer, and your partner is still watching sexy content regularly, confront the issue and then talk about it.
Addiction is also one of the options and in that case, he will be ready to lose his job, love, ruin the relationship just so he can enjoy himself regularly in front of the monitor. Porn can be a problem if you’re using it so much that real sex feels lackluster, boring, or under stimulating.
It is impossible to generalize, but experts consider problematic watching porn content for more than 11 hours a week to be problematic.
Overall, locally, we must admit that people in committed relationships use porn as a substitute for affection. In particular, the respondents indicated that they view porn in conjunction with masturbation as a means of releasing sexual tension, escaping loneliness, and creating parasocial relationships. Porn consumption can serve as a coping mechanism when people aren’t getting the affection they need in their relationships.
However, understanding the negative effects of watching porn and doing something about it is so much more important than knowing the whys. Whether you’re a man looking at porn or his partner, don’t make the mistake of minimizing or ignoring what it does to you and your relationship. Allyuh ‘talk’ about it!
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