‘Trinis’ Learn Their Partner’s Love Language To Better Their Relationship

‘Trinis’ Learn Their Partner’s Love Language To Better Their Relationship

How do you really know you’re a good lover? Not sexually, but in your relationship entirely. It’s  funny how in relationships we can often put our needs onto our partner, and think we’re doing a ‘realllll good’ job in loving them; when in reality, they’re still yearning to be loved the way they’ve always wanted.

Knowing and recognizing your partner’s love language (quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts and/or physical touch) can make your relationship, and not knowing it can break it.

In today’s feature, we at IzzSo check out the wonders knowing your partner’s love language can do for you both:

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Knowing Your Partner’s Love Language Will Help You Connect Better

An avid IzzSo reader, Michelle, shared that her husband Micheal and herself consistently had misunderstandings and while they clicked in some ways, it was difficult to get on the same page with others. The husband thought it was perfectly normal to go all day without talking and even texting while Michelle would be sending sweet text messages and songs with no response, wondering if he was even interested.

Lo and behold, words of affirmation is Michelle’s love language (along with good old quality time). At the same time, because she was looking for reassurance and certain things from Micheal, she gave him what she wanted thinking it was just what he needed. Nah-Nah! His love language turned out to be acts of service. So, sending a text message is nice like ‘dinner mints’ and all, but it was more for Michelle to get a response, and not what made him feel loved

Once the couple discovered this, it was like an ‘eh heh’ moment and they were able to connect at an even deeper level as he understood why Michelle need affirmations, and she understood why Michael wasn’t responding the way she wanted. Knowing your partner’s love language can improve your relationship and help you connect on a new level. There’s just something about you being loved how you want and need to be, and your partner feeling the same way, that makes a relationship flourish and actually enjoyable to be in as you love each other together.

Knowing Your Partner’s Love Language Will Make You Feel More Appreciated

Once you realize what your partner’s love language is and act on it, you won’t be able to deny the new heights of appreciation you both experience. It feels amazing for someone to take the time and make the effort to love you the way that you need, and for you to do the same for someone else.

A lot of times, we love people by giving them what we need because we want them to feel good. We know it’s something that we would love to happen for us, so why wouldn’t they want it for themselves? But this is where we learn that love isn’t about us. It’s about them and what they need.

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Chances are, once they see the energy you’re putting in to love them properly, with no ‘mamaguy’, they’ll step up their own efforts too and you both win. I mean, think about how much better things could be if you both feel good because your partner feels loved the way they desire, not just because you did something you wanted them to love. Knowing that it takes effort on your part to love you in a way that connects with them and vice versa can cause both of you to appreciate one another in a way that you might not have before.

Knowing Your Partner’s Love Language Will Help You Love Who They Are

Our love languages are a major part of how we’re wired. I’m not enabling or OK-ing things that are toxic and unhealthy, but in reality, we really can’t help how we need to be loved. It’s probably been this way since before we had any control over it, or were even aware it existed. The sooner we acknowledge our partner’s love language (and even our own if we don’t know it), the sooner we can understand them as a person.

This is just who they are. It’s all included in the good, the bad and the ugly of all things humane. Whether it’s a spouse or a new relationship, going from knowing how they are (like their personality) to understanding the ins and outs of how they’re built and wired can make this type of love a lifelong one.

There’s beauty in being able to accept your partner for what they need and what they want, and not trying to change or coerce it into something that’s easier for us. Once we’re able to reach the healthy stance that we’re going to love our special someone unconditionally and how they need, our relationships can stand the test of time and anything else.

I’m not saying that knowing the love language of your significant other is all that you need in a relationship, but it can definitely help make it last.

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