Black Student Ordered To Kneel And Apologize To White Headmaster


Black Student Ordered To Kneel And Apologize To White Headmaster

A white Long Island Catholic school headmaster forced a Black 11-year-old student to kneel down and apologize to a teacher — calling it the “African way” to say sorry, the Daily News has learned.

Hempstead mom Trisha Paul says it was disturbing enough to learn about the punishment of her sixth-grade son at the hands of St. Martin de Porres Marianist school headmaster John Holian.

But she was even more shocked when Holian, who is white, told Paul, who is Haitian-American, he’d learned the approach from a Nigerian father who said it was an “African way” of apologizing.

“Once he started mentioning this African family, that’s when it just clicked,” said Paul. “Like, this is not normal procedure. I felt there was no relevance at all. Is he generalizing that everyone who is Black is African? That’s when I realized something is not right with this situation.”

Paul said her son is still reeling from the humiliating incident — and the family is grappling with the suspicion he was treated more harshly because of his race.

The normally outgoing middle-schooler has been “really reserved” since the February encounter, Paul said.

“My son was humiliated, hurt, embarrassed, sad and confused,” Paul explained. “He reads about things happening because of your skin colour. To experience it… he’s just trying to process it in his 11-year-old brain.”

Holian declined to comment on the specifics of Paul’s complaint, saying only that “we love our students here,” and noting that the “vast majority” are students of color. Attempts to reach a representative of the Marianist Brothers, the religious chapter that runs the school, were unsuccessful.

But after inquiries from The News about the incident, school officials sent a letter to parents Friday saying Holian has been placed on temporary leave while the school investigates.

“I want to assure you that St. Martin’s neither condones nor accepts the actions of our headmaster,” wrote acting headmaster James Conway in the email, a copy of which was obtained by The News. “The incident does not reflect our long, established values or the established protocols regarding student-related issues.”

Holian, a 17-year-veteran of the school, acknowledged in the March 4th meeting he’d learned the kneeling practice from the Nigerian father of a former student.

“This father came in and said, ‘you’re going to apologize to this teacher the African way, and you’re going to get down on your knees and apologize.’ I’ve never seen that before,” Holian explained.

The headmaster said the practice stuck with him and he thinks it’s an appropriate form of discipline for kids of any race.

“I have six kids and four boys. And if one of them is really acting rude and arrogant… I will say at times, ‘get on your knees and apologize,’” Holian told Paul. “I was speaking to your son as I would my own son.”

“I’m sorry if you’re upset,” Holian added. “It wasn’t a thought-out situation.”

Paul said that Holian’s apology was too little too late.

“He showed no remorse until he realized how it’s impacted my son,” Paul said. “He’s going to therapy. He’s been very reserved and humiliated.” Trayson has been hesitant to resume in-person classes, Paul added, and tries to “stay away from the headmaster and not speak to the teacher if need be.”

Paul, who has hired a lawyer, said placing Holian on leave and investigating is a “step in the right direction” for the school, but doesn’t go far enough.